On one sunny fall day, I called my best friend. “I saw the forecast. It might be raining next week. Why don’t we go for a walk today? Maybe this will be the last nice day this fall.” She agreed. We walked for hours, talked about ice cream, relationships, global warming, guys, how when you block all the crazy folks on Facebook your feed becomes boring, meaning of life and that jazz. It was one epic long walk.
Confession: I feel lonely time after time. Since I moved to the US I changed my social habits a lot. I am alone more often than I used to be. Sometimes it is awesome and right what I need. But other times, it is a pure boredom. As an ambivert (combo of introvert and extrovert), I crave my own space and freedom, but I benefit greatly from contact with other people. (Aren’t we all wired that way?) Human energy is a potent fuel. It motivates and energizes.
It’s no secret that a loneliness can be a chronic disorder. Happy people have strong social networks. And I want to improve mine. Too often I catch myself bitching about how living in small town is such a misfortune. In fact, I am not using the full range of things this little town has to offer. I am inert. But I am willing to change. And have more fun. And friends. Here are some actions steps.Continue reading →