These 10 ideas helped me establish meditation practice


After one hiking trip, my husband and I visited a friend. He was a founder of a local hiking club and that night they were throwing a party. He told us not to worry about the accommodation since there was a plenty of space in the club. The party was great and when it was over we asked where we can sleep. He brought us to a storage room and said: “Here.” The room was full of… well everything. There were camping chairs, tables, tents, disco balls, glassware, different tools, paintings, tons of random stuff. My husband and I looked into each other’s eyes, shrug the shoulders and got to work. We cleaned up a bit, made a rectangular space on the floor in the middle of the mess, put our mattresses and sleeping bags and spent a relatively comfortable night.

I thought about that night many times. I couldn’t forget that picture: making a small, clear space in the middle of the mess. And yes, that is how I perceive meditation. Our minds are crazy and messy, full of tools, furniture, and disco balls. If we don’t have a regular clean-up practice, our minds tend to turn into a total chaos. The meditation helps clean-up, relax, shrink mess a little bit.

For years I was intrigued by the idea of meditation, however, I could not establish the practice for longer than a week. But this time, I decided to do it for real. I pulled out all the ideas from my habit-formation arsenal and… I guess it worked. I’ve been meditating for about 3 months now.

Here is the list of exact strategies that worked for me. I hope you’ll find them useful for meditation and any other habit you’re trying to form. And I hope this list will inspire you to shift at least one little habit. (Today.) Enjoy.
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This is the root of all your problems (but here’s the solution, too)

Our new topic has simple name. SHHHHHHH! That is the exact opposite of BLABLA. Let’s get started! Let’s speak about silence. Oxymoron, I know. 🙂

Have you ever wondered what is the cause of all of your problems? I have. There are many ideas and answers. For instance, Blaise Pascal claims that all the man’s problems stem from his inability to sit in a room. Alone. In silence. Bang! ((Tweet this!))

I have written before that I spent good chunk of my life keeping myself busy, rushing from one party to another, from one workout to another, from workplace to coffee place, from coffee place to bar, from bar to movie, from movie into unconsciousness. And tomorrow again. For many days. For many years. I felt as if my worth is proportional to number of things I can squeeze into 24 hours. More is better. I am better person if I do more, right?

Certainly, I am not the only one that fell in this trap. No, no….Young ambitious person has to wrestle with an entire mountain of tasks and goals. Self-imposed, society-imposed, parents-imposed. If you want brilliant career, social life, professional network, travels, bikini body, professional wardrobe, hairstyle, make up and all other things that Cosmo girl absolutely MUST have this summer, start working hard now. Don’t stop. Fill in your calendar. What? You still have 5 unscheduled minutes? Do the series of push-ups, what are you looking at?! (Although most of us devote these spare 5 minutes to mindless rolling over facebook or twitter feed, stopping occasionally when the photo of of chocolate cheese cake pops up. Mmmmmm, chocolate cheese cake.)

There is something else. Rest and sleep are being kinda… demonized. Wherever you go, you can hear people bragging about how busy they are and how little sleep they get, as if this life is being a competition in sleep deprivation and busyness. ((Tweet this!)) “You are sleeping 8 hours at night? Oh, wow, I wish I could afford that, but I am just…..busy.” And they look at you with mixture of contempt and jealousy. “Lazy!”

In fact, if you want to fill an entire day, you can. Wipe the dust. Keep email always opened and facebook notifications always on. Plenty of work to do! Who could respond to all that comments? You can also join some student organization. Or some club. It will help you kill enormous amounts of time. When you don’t know what to do, you can take all the dishes you have and wash them with eco-friendly vinegar solution. You can take all of your clothes from your closet and sort it by colors. Check facebook once again. Wipe the dust again, it has been a while. And so on. I know, you are busy…..

Enough? Read today’s Bombastic question:


When have you last sat in silence and did NOTHING?

Under the layers of dust, TV shows, facebook notifications, web buzz, house chores, duties and workouts, under thousands of words, thoughts, emotions and information lays……SHHHHHHHHH! Silence. That’s where he lives. Spirit. Creative Genius. Muse. Essence. Idea. Everything that cannot be destroyed. But that can be hidden with noise.

You can avoid the meeting with your creative genius in number of ways. Some are listed above and I believe that you and me both know our favorite ways. Actually, the entire world is consistently inventing new mechanisms to avoid silence and peace. Distractions.

Everything you need to do is to kill all the distractions, kick all your friends out, sit and do nothing. In silence. 5 minutes a day. It’s not too hard.

If you avoid being alone or if you always have background TV noise, you will never ever find your creative genius. You will never meet yourself. You will never untangle emotional troubles. I am living proof of that.

Nature functions with effortless ease. Acorn turns into the oak tree and embryo becomes a baby effortlessly, in silence. We are the only ones that struggle, because we make resistance. We say NO. We keep ourselves busy. We resist natural harmony. We search for the answer outside, rather than inside. And everything you will ever need is already in the package.

Every yoga practice ends with Savasana, corpse pose. (Very simple, you lay on your back and relax.) In that way you are collecting all the wisdom that your body has experienced. Yoga masters say that practice without Savasana is meaningless. So do it today.

Indulge yourself with Savasana. Or sit in the room. Alone. In silence. Solve your problems. Wait for him and he will come.

Your turn. Try sitting in silence and tell me how it went in the comment section. I am looking forward to hear you impressions.



P. S. Cookie of wisdom 1: “One can be instructed in society, one is inspired only in solitude.” Johann Wolfgang von Goethe ((Tweet this!))

P. S. Cookie of wisdom 2: “You need not leave your room. Remain sitting at your table and listen. You need not even listen, simply wait, just learn to become quiet, and still, and solitary. The world will freely offer itself to you to be unmasked. It has no choice; it will roll in ecstasy at your feet.” Franz Kafka ((Tweet this!))